I'm going to reproduce the chart here because it's a concise and accurate description of the various forms of psychological abuse out there. I hope you find it as useful as I have.
Neglectful Tactics
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Deliberate Tactics
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Denying Emotional Responsiveness
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failing to
provide care in a sensitive and responsive manner;
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interacting in a
detached and uninvolved manner;
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interacting only when
necessary;
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ignoring the
other person’s attempts to interact (for example, treating an older adult who
lives in a residence or institution as though she/he is “a job to be done”)
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Accusing, blaming and jealous control
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telling a person
repeatedly that he/she has caused the abuse;
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blaming the
person unfairly for everything that goes wrong;
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accusing the
person of having affairs or flirting with others;
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making the person
feel they cannot be trusted;
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checking up on
their activities;
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demanding the
person account for every moment of the day;
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using anger to
control the other person.
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Discounting
–
not giving any
credence to the person’s point of view;
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not validating
the person’s feelings;
– claiming the behaviour was meant as a joke.
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Criticizing behaviour and ridiculing traits
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continuously
finding fault with the other person or making the person feel nothing he/she
does is ever right;
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setting
unrealistic standards;
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belittling the
person’s thoughts, ideas and achievements;
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diminishing the
identity, dignity and self-worth of the person;
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mimicking her/him.
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Ignoring
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purposefully not
acknowledging the presence, value or contribution of the other;
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acting as though
the other person were not there.
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Degrading
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insulting,
ridiculing, name calling, imitating, or infantilizing;
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yelling,
swearing, publicly humiliating or labelling the other person as stupid.
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Denying or forgetting
- denying that any abuse has ever taken place;
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telling the
person no one would believe the accusations because it is all in his/her
head;
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forgetting
promises or agreements.
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Harassing
- repeatedly contacting, following or watching the other person;
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‘keeping tabs’ on
him/her through others; –sending unwanted gifts.
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Countering
- implying
something is wrong with the person who has hurt feelings or complains about
not liking his/her treatment as a result of the abuse;
- contradicting
what the other person says.
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Corrupting/Exploiting
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socializing a
person to accept ideas or behaviours that are illegal;
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using a person
for advantage or profit; –training him/her to serve the abuser’s interests;
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enticing him/her
into the sex trade;
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permitting a
child to use alcohol or drugs
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Minimizing
/ trivializing
- refusing to validate the other person’s feelings of hurt;
- suggesting that nobody else would be upset by the same treatment.
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Terrorizing
–
inducing terror or extreme fear in a person through coercion or
intimidation;
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placing or threatening to place a person in an unfit or dangerous
environment;
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threatening to hurt or kill a pet or loved ones;
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threatening to destroy possessions;
– threatening to have the
person deported or placed in an institution.
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Rejecting
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refusing to
acknowledge a person’s presence, value or worth;
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communicating to
a person that he/she is useless or inferior;
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devaluing his/her
thoughts and feelings;
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repeatedly
treating a child differently from other siblings in a way that suggests
resentment, rejection or dislike for the child.
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Isolating
– physically confining the person;
– restricting normal contact with others;
– limiting freedom and excluding an older adult from personal decisions;
– locking a person in a closet or room;
– refusing a person access to his/her own or jointly owned money;
– depriving a person of mobility aids or transportation;
– using others as pawns in relationships.
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This information has been sourced from the National Clearinghouse on Family Violence. "Psychological Abuse: A Discussion Paper" Prepared by Deborah Doherty and Dorothy Berglund. Ottawa: Public Health Agency of Canada, 2008.
Thanks again to Singular Insanity for posting this!
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